• Beth

The Joy of Lagom

The definition of Lagom on dictionary.com really resonates with me.

Lagom: (noun) the principle of living a balanced, moderately paced, low-fuss life: those who achieve lagom routinely take time to appreciate their surroundings, take several breaks during the workday, dress from a minimal and versatile wardrobe, and treat others with respect and kindness.

It's the part about a 'low-fuss life' that does it for me. When colleagues ask me about my weekend, you can bet that there'll be a walk, cook or evening by the fire involved! It's these 'low-fuss' moments that I want to celebrate this month.

How many times have you opened the curtains and not even noticed the view outside your window? When was the last time that you took a second to pay attention to what the weather was doing or the peeks of wildlife that will no doubt be there even if you're in the middle of the city?

When was the last time you paid attention to your cup of coffee or tea? Actually noticing how it tastes rather than drinking it on auto-pilot?

Take a second now, don't worry I'll wait, to notice what's going on around you right this very second. Yes, right now. What's the light doing? What can you hear? Who can you see? Are you too warm, too cold or just right? Is there something that you can see that is beautiful?

Now that you've noticed one thing that's lovely, are there any other things that you can see that make your heart a bit lighter?

I'm sitting in my living room whilst writing this and so far I've spotted a plant that I grew from a cutting, which was grown from another cutting (plants make me happy), some pictures that we picked up years ago when we were on holiday, books that I love to read and the telly - which brings me many hours of joy! They don't need to be big things - we're looking for the mundane here.

When we notice & appreciate the everyday stuff, we are living in a gratitude mindset. This mindset of gratitude, allows us to foster adaptive coping mechanisms, which help us to cope better with things like stressful situations and builds our emotional resilience. (You can read more here) It's amazing what an effect having a gratitude mindset can have.

The other part of this definition that really resonates is the 'moderately paced life' part. A few weeks ago, I chatted to Fulfil Online about the importance of leaving 'hustle culture' and moving towards a more moderately paced / intentional way of being. We chatted about it here in this article & here in this IGTV. If there's one thing that I encourage my coaching clients to do, it's to look at the pace of their every day. Yes there will always be busy seasons but if we can slow down our 'normal' days a little bit, then we're going to have more opportunities for those moments of gratitude. We're going to feel more balanced and we're certainly going to feel less stressed.

Perhaps this is something that you might like to try on for size? There are lots of resources available for cultivating a gratitude practise, including the 5 minute journal app which I highly recommend. But the reality is, if when you wake up you pick out 3 or 4 things that you're grateful for and then at night you do the same, you're well onto having a gratitude practice.

If you'd like to learn more about how you can live a more Lagom life, I'd love to chat. you can book a complimentary Discovery Call here.

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