• Beth

What is setting your soul on fire?

We’re in the second week of January now and I wonder how many of us have already ‘broken’ our New Years Resolution?

I’m terrible with New Years Resolutions. Honestly dreadful! This comes from my very perfectionist mindset (Have a listen to The Perfectionism Project to find out more about perfectionism, it might not be what you think!) and the very real sense of shame and failure that I get if I don’t stick perfectly to a goal (even the ones I don’t tell anyone about!) I’ve tried habit trackers, SMART goals and everything in between but as soon as I saw a gap in my habit tracker I threw my toys out of the pram and just thought “Bugger it, I’m going to have to wait until next week/month/year before I can start again” Healthy and helpful right?!

So I decided to try something different. Instead of writing resolutions, I wrote a letter to myself telling me all of the amazing things that I’ve achieved this year and from that I chose a word of the year. I’m sure you’ll have seen the idea of word for the year floating around Instagram and Pinterest but it actually makes sense.

Our brains want to take the path of least resistance, ALWAYS, so making new habits is hard. It takes energy that out sub-conscious just doesn’t want to give out. So by choosing a word to live by we’re gently shifting our habits without our sub-conscious knowing it half of the time! For example; if you’re like me and try to put things off for a bit, like unloading the dishwasher, choosing a word like ‘action’ gently encourages you to take action at the first available moment in all areas of your life. Whereas setting the resolution to unload the dishwasher every morning only focuses on one aspect of your existence and doesn’t include full person growth.

So, how do we go about getting this letter written so we can choose a word? I’d encourage you to begin by getting yourself a cuppa and finding a quiet spot to daydream about what you might like to see if your life this year. Really relax into it, think about how you’d like to feel, what you’d like to be doing more of, what you’d like to have achieved. Once you’ve had a good old think about it, get some lovely paper (or a journal) and write to yourself. This letter is going to be dated for the 31st December 2020 and written in the present tense. Write positively and with love, take time to really feel the things that you’re writing down.

Once you’ve finished your letter, make another cuppa and then come back to read it to yourself. What theme keeps popping up? For me, it was the theme of abundance, abundance of time, abundance of income, abundance of beautiful clients, so my word of 2020 is abundance.

Keep your letter close to you and reread it as often as possible. As you read it visualise all of the things that you’ve written, our brains can’t tell the difference between a well visualised thought and an actual event (have a read of The Source by the beautiful neuroscientist Tara Swart if you don’t believe me!) so by visualising what we want we are able to take inspired action to make it happen.

I’d love to know what your word of the year is going to be so leave a comment below or tag me in your gorgeous Instagram posts (@oils_with_beth or #withbethc)

With much light & love x

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